• Amanda Miller

Synchronicities, Patterns, and Happenstance

One of my favorite things is to converse with my fellow practitioners and learn about some of the interesting intuitive discoveries they come across during a session. I learn so much and I am always blow away at their intuitive insights. Many times I end up getting goosebumps at the synchronicities between life experience and physical symptoms. It is interesting to discover how people see the world, how it has shaped their experience and how it leaves marks on their bodies. I have included a few examples of some of the patterns I have seen emerge when working with certain health conditions.

These are not scientifically proven facts, they are intuitive observations from clinical experience. They also do not apply to everyone of course. There are a variety of reason people suffer from the listed conditions.

Hyper-vigilance and Insomnia

Almost every time I come across someone with insomnia there is usually a tendency towards hypervigilance. If it is chronic insomnia, they usually have deeply ingrained beliefs about the need for hypervigilance. There is a strong attachment between control and consequences. They dare not surrender to anyone or anything (including sleep) or they will pay the price. Their mental space is often taken up with their imagined wrong-doings and failures. There is a strong resistance to trusting love or trusting life.

It is no small feat to facilitate these people into a different reality because it is hard for them to trust enough to see it any other way. When there is hypervigilance, everything feels like a threat! That is not a comfortable position to be in. I often find that a permission balancing around trust is helpful. A permissions balancing is a BodyTalk technique that helps to acknowledge and release the resistance towards healing, and in this case, trusting healing (trusting themselves).

If it is acute insomnia, I find there is something specific going on in their life ‘right now’ that is demanding the need for hypervigilance.

Here are a few questions to consider asking your client to gain some more insight as to what beliefs and experiences are contributing to the physical symptoms:

  • What good thing would you lose if you were to open yourself up to trust?

  • Take a moment and reflect on your connections. Do you feel connected? Is there someone or something in your life you feel disconnected from? What is standing in the way of making connections?

  • Have you become cynical about life? If so, why? What would you lose if you were hopeful about life? Does it feel fake to be hopeful?

Diarrhea or Constipation

Over time I have seen a pattern emerge when dealing with these two uncomfortable and disruptive ailments. Since I am partial to intestinal flora and its effects on the proper functioning of the intestines - at some point during a session, I tend to open up my intuition to the possibility that the ecosystem of the gut microbiome has become disrupted. Is there an overabundance of one of the mutualists? Are we dealing with a frenemy (has one of the mutualist has switched to pathogen mode)? Are any of the mutualist in the wrong location? More often than not, when it comes to diarrhea or constipation, I find the guilty party to be the gram-positive bacterial group called Clostridia. This particular class of microbes has gotten a fair amount of negative press due a few pathogenic species (C. diff for example), however most of these guys are mutualists. One of their key roles is to care for and feed the colonocytes (cells of the colon). They produce a substance called butyrate, which is the colon’s cells food of choice. Butyrate has excellent anti-inflammatory properties.

What seems to come up for me consistently is either an excess (overabundance) of the Clostridia species in the case of diarrhea OR a depletion of it when in comes to constipation. Of course, this is not in ALL cases but a pattern worth considering and testing for if you have clients with these conditions.

AND, because physical symptoms rarely come without some sort of emotional or psychological influence I always check-in with some common patterns here as well.

For diarrhea, I often find there is something going on with regards to overwhelm where they are desperately trying to get rid of something or clear something (duty, expectations, control, obligations, responsibilities, etc.). If it is chronic diarrhea, I tend to find that their experience as a child was such that they were expected to take care of their parents or siblings. Any move towards autonomy or independence was considered a betrayal. Familial obligations and responsibilities were to be the priority.

Here are some questions to consider asking your client to gain insight:

  • What in your life are you desperately trying to get rid of or clear? Why is it you are having trouble clearing it? What would you lose if you were to purge this person, situation, or experience from your life?

  • What would you have to let go of in order to put yourself and your needs first? How is it harming you to consider your familial obligations over yours?

  • Is there something or someone in your life you need to release? Will there ever be a good time to let them go? What is getting in the way of your action?

With constipation, there seems to be a strong desire to slow something or stop something they are experiencing. They are trapped in a situation where nothing good will come of it - they simply have to bare it. There is a sense they are stuck permanently. When chronic, I often find there was the perception of oppressive and authoritarian parents and some sort of power struggle they lost. Usually there is a significant active memory of this that is still very charged.

Here are some questions to consider asking your client to gain insight:

  • Is there an area of your life in which you feel stuck permanently? Can you be certain it is permanent? What if you were to ask for help? What would you lose of you were to demand change in this area of your life?

  • Think of control. Are you attempting to control your life and the people in it? Or are you always working to control yourself, your emotions, and/or your reactions? What would be the worst thing that would happen if you were to let go a little?

  • Do you have trouble with forgiveness? Is there someone you need to forgive (maybe yourself)? How is it benefiting you to hold on to that grudge? What do you fear will happen if you forgive someone?


The feeling of being stuffed, up, blocked or full. Often I find that congestion can be a result of unexpressed tears - they are literally crying on the inside. There seem to be a few different scenarios (and active memories) as to why there are tears there in the first place. Often times I find these people have had an experience at some point in their life, where they never really received the love back from someone they loved very deeply. An unequal expression/exchange of love. Sometimes it was a parent and other times it was a romantic relationship or friendship.

On top of that, these clients seemed to also experience a lot of negative consequences anytime emotion was expressed - hence the need to bottle the emotion and keep it on the inside. Sometimes I found these two experiences to be one and the same, in other words, the same person in which they experienced the lack of love with was the same person that punished them for any expression of emotion. Other times, these two experiences were completely unrelated.

Here are some questions to consider to help gain some insight as to what is going on for your clients:

  • Does it feel unsafe to express your emotions? Why? Does it feel as though you may be punished? What good thing would you lose if you were to open express your sadness or grief?

  • How is it harming you to keep your emotions bottled up?

  • Reflect on the equal exchange of love. Does it feel overwhelming to imagine that someone could love you as much as you love them? Why? What would you have to let go of in order to accept and receive love from another?

Thank you for reading! Hopefully you will find some of these experiences helpful in your own clinic.

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