When You Find Yourself Forcing It!
Does it feel like you forcing it?
With your goals? Through your day? In your relationship?
There is no need for resolutions when you are in the flow! And when you are in the flow, things happen easily and effortlessly. This does not mean you don’t have to DO something, it just means things flow freely, efficiently, and conveniently.
So when you are stuck, restricted or blocked it is natural to want to ‘set goals’ in hopes you can ‘force’ the flow. But we know how that ends. And - why would you want to force things anyway? For real. Answer that. Because it is likely there is some good (fearful) reason. Question your reasoning. Is it really in your best interest and is it really truly helping you grow? Or is your reasoning just causing you stress?
Then is our tendency to want to blame a zillion different things for inability to create, grow, or produce results. Things like time. We all have the same amount of time in a day. Or we say: “Things happen for a reason.” I am sure this is true in some situations. I am sure it is not in others. My favorite is when we blame ourselves. When we are positive that we are just ‘blocked’ in some way...like emotionally or mentally blocked. So basically what that means is we need to blame ‘something really bad’ about selves but we don’t know what it is or why it is plaguing us or when it is going to shift. Why?!
The point is, when you are in the flow things happen easily and effortlessly. Being in the flow means that you are living your life in a conscious way that allows you to express yourself naturally. Not attempting to change who you are, not forcing yourself to stick to a new ‘healthy’ habit, not measuring yourself based on the feedback you get from the people around you, etc. This leads unattainable expectations and/or unconscious habits that give us nothing but false hope and slavery to our beliefs.
What goals do I want to achieve this year? Gross!
Just to be clear, I am not against goal setting. I do think it has a place in our life, however I find that most people set goals from a place of lack, restriction and self loathing. So basically people look at what they don’t have and decide they want it. Or think life would be better if we had this or did that. What I am suggesting instead, is to ask yourself: “What really matters to me, in my life?” This gets you to closer to the heart of what life is about for you. It will also get you closer to effortless accomplishments and creative flow.
Confidence is a tricky concept. Many times we measure our level of confidence by how well received we are. If we have lots of ‘likes’ on FB then we feel good inside and have confidence. If we speak our opinion and people support it then we feel confident it what we are saying. So in these situations we might say that we are feeling much more confident with ourselves. But then there are times when the ‘likes’ don’t come flooding in or people aren’t agreeing with our opinion. We say, “that was a hit to my confidence”. Then it feels hard the next time to freely express and we have to find ways to ‘build’ our confidence back up. If I have learned anything over the last couple of years, it is that there is no real safety or security in this sort of confidence. It is not real confidence. The only real safety is the belief in self. Certainty about what you are doing or expressing. A solidness within yourself that does not waiver depending on the feedback you are getting from the world. Imagine for a moment what it would be like to live in this space.
We are in a Year 1
For those of you who follow numerology or find interest in life cycles...2016 was considered a year 9 and the end of a cycle! WhooHoo! Hopefully you have taken the opportunity to take stock of the wisdom you gained.
This year, 2017, is a year 1. The energy of the 1 is all about independence, initiation, achievement, and creative individuality. It’s a new start, a year of initiation for a whole new 9-year cycle. So like it or not, you are at the beginning of a new 9 year cycle. This means that you will be manifesting something new in an area of your life. This is the time to consciously plant seeds.
Join us in discovering you! Let’s find out what really matters, how you can experience authentic confidence, and become a conscious creator in our 6 week series, iWonder What I Can Do!